A girl's smile

A girl's smile 女孩的微笑 

About ten years ago when I was an undergraduate in college, I was working as an intern at my University's Museum of Natural History. One day while working at the cash register in the gift shop, I saw an elderly couple come in with a little girl in a wheelchair.

As I looked closer at this girl, I saw that she was kind of perched on her chair. I then realized she had no arms or legs, just a head, neck and torso. She was wearing a little white dress with red polka dots.

As the couple wheeled her up to me I was looking down at the register. I turned my head toward the girl and gave her a wink. As I took the money from her grandparents, I looked back at the girl, who was giving me the cutest, largest smile I have ever seen.

All of a sudden her handicap was gone and all I saw was this beautiful girl, whose smile just melted me and almost instantly gave me a completely new sense of what life is all about. She took me from a poor, unhappy college student and brought me into her world; a world of smiles, love and warmth.

That was ten years ago. I'm a successful business person now and whenever I get down and think about the troubles of the world, I think about that little girl and the remarkable lesson about life that she taught me.

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The Missed Blessings

A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.

As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold. Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" He then stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and a wonderful family, but realizing his father was very old, he thought perhaps he should go to see him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make the arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.

When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he was reading, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words... "PAID IN FULL".

How many times do we miss blessings because they are not packaged as we expected? Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.

Sometimes we don't realize the good fortune we have or we could have because we expect "the packaging" to be different. What may appear as bad fortune may in fact be the door that is just waiting to be opened.

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The Road To Success

When you imagine the ‘road to success’, what sort of picture do you see in your mind?

Do you imagine a long road that eventually leads you to your desired destination?

Today I’d like to share with you a slightly different picture of the road to success. When you understand this picture, you will be much better prepared for your journey.

When you first set out on the road to success, it looks something like this:

You can see your goal glistening in the distance and it almost seems within your reach.

You are excited about heading down the road and making your dream a reality.

However, a strange thing happens as soon as you take your first step down the road to success.

Suddenly, a brick wall appears out of nowhere and blocks your progress. Where these brick walls come from nobody knows, but for some reason they always appear.

One of the main reasons people fail to reach their goals in life is that no one has ever told them about the brick walls! Many people are so surprised by the appearance of the wall that they simply stop and give up on their dream.

When you are faced with a brick wall on the road to success, you have two options:

(1) You can sit down and give up.

(2) You can find a way over, around, under or through the wall.

If you make it past the first wall, you may catch a glimpse of your goal and realize that it is a little closer, but then inevitably, another brick wall appears out of nowhere.

No matter what your goal is, it is important to realize that as soon as you begin your journey down the road to success, you will encounter a series of brick walls.

The trick is to be prepared for the walls to appear and realize that getting past these obstacles is just part of the journey. This will help you see the brick walls for what they really are – just temporary obstacles that you need to deal with in order to reach your objective.

So then - here is what the road to success really looks like.

Remember this picture and never let an obstacle stop you from moving forward.

Always remember that for every problem you encounter, there is a solution - and on the other side of that final wall, your goal is waiting for you.

Action Steps

(1) Realize that as soon as you start working towards a goal, obstacles will appear.

(2) Understand that overcoming these obstacles is part of your journey.

(3) When you encounter a brick wall – don’t give up! Look for a way over, around, under or through the wall and continue moving forward!

 

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A New Perspective

Sometimes a simple change of perspective can make all the difference. It can be like the dawn of a new day.

In response to the challenges life brings us, it's easy to sometimes view the world from a perspective of survival.

From this perspective we often examine situations and ask ourselves, “What can I get from this? What can I take? What can I gain?”

One of the most powerful secrets for achieving success is to change this perspective and instead, examine the world from a perspective of contribution.

Change the questions you ask and instead of asking, "What can I get? What can I take?

What can I gain?" Ask, "What can I give? What can I share? What can I contribute?"

The most amazing thing about this change of perspective is that the more you contribute to the lives of others, the more you will receive in return.

“Life like a mirror, never gives back more than what we put into it”

- Author unknown

For example if you run a business, instead of focusing on "making a sale", change your focus to "helping your customers and making a positive contribution to their life".

When you do this, your customers will sense your genuine desire to help them and as a result you will gain more sales.

Action Steps:

(1) In every situation ask yourself, "What can I give? What can I share? What can I contribute?"

(2) Make a contribution to others and enjoy the benefits life sends you in return.

 

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Words Have Power

Words have power, and today I'd like to share with you two words that have the power to change lives.

The two words I'm talking about are 'Thank You'

In today's hectic society very few people take the time to stop and say thank-you which is unfortunate because as Mother Teresa so eloquently put it …

“There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread”

- Mother Teresa

Here is a true story that demonstrates the power of these two little words.

One day I went into the bank to deposit a cheque. There was a long queue and as time ticked by the people in the queue became more and more annoyed.

For some reason, there was only one counter available but despite the negative energy of the customers, the young woman behind the counter was doing a fantastic job. I watched as she greeted each customer with a genuine smile and then processed their transactions quickly and efficiently.

When it was my turn, I took note of the name on her badge and thanked her for her help. I then went to the information desk and asked for a customer feedback form.

On the feedback form I wrote something along the lines of: "Today I received exceptional customer service from Michelle Hall at the QLD City branch. Michelle was friendly, efficient and very professional. I commend her on her work ethic and I believe she is a valuable asset to your company. Yours Sincerely, Anthony Fernando"

A few weeks later I returned to the bank and Michelle served me once again. As she processed my transaction, she stopped, took a second look at my name and then with a huge smile told me that her manager had read out my customer feedback comments at her recent performance review and that she'd received a promotion.

I was delighted to hear that my comments played a small part in her success.

Taking the time to recognize excellence and say thank-you is a truly win-win exercise.

The person you say thank-you to feels appreciated and at the same time, you receive a burst of positive energy from helping someone feel good about themselves and what they do.

Action Steps

If you notice someone doing a great job, take the time to recognize their efforts and say thank-you. Here are a couple of ideas that can really make a big impact in the life of others and at the same time will make you feel terrific.

(1) Take five minutes to fill out a customer feedback form whenever you receive exceptional service.

(2) Send a thank-you email to someone who has helped you at work

(3) Send an email to someone just to let them know that they are doing a great job and send a carbon copy (CC) of the email to that person's manager or boss.

Remember, little things make a big difference and the words 'Thank-you' can truly change lives.

 

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The Habit Escalator

It has often been said that success in life comes from developing the right habits.

For example, we all know that good health comes from developing the habits of eating well and exercising regularly. The BIG question is - "How do we develop these habits?"

Well, I have good news and bad news…

The bad news is that developing a new habit IS hard work!

The good news is that it is much easier to maintain a habit once you've established it.

Here is how I like to think about developing new habits.

Imagine a staircase that has 30 stairs.

At the top of the stairs is an escalator that leads to your goal. The hard part of establishing a new habit is to climb the 'stairs of change' so that you can then ride up the 'habit escalator'.

What this means in the real world is that if you can make yourself do something every day for 30 days, it will become a habit, and once you've established a habit things become much easier.

For example, lets say you wanted to develop the habit of getting up at 6.00am to do some exercise…

The first morning your alarm goes off you will probably be tempted to throw your alarm clock against the wall. Think of this as climbing the 'steps of change'. If you commit yourself to taking action for 30 days in a row, you will find that things will get easier.

By the 30th day, you will probably find yourself waking up just before your alarm goes off. When this happens, you have reached the top of the stairs and completed the hard work necessary to establish a new habit.

At this point, your habit takes over and your action becomes almost second nature. This is the 'habit escalator' which is one of the most effective ways to reach your goals.

“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.”

- John Dryden

Unfortunately most people give up while they are still climbing the 'stairs of change' and never get to enjoy riding on the 'habit escalator'.

Action Steps

1. Decide on the habits you need to develop in order to achieve your goals.

2. Commit yourself to practicing these habits for 30 days (climb the stairs of change)

3. Jump on the habit escalator and enjoy the ride to success!

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Letting Go

I'm sure you've heard the saying that, "When one door closes, another opens"

This saying is true, but it comes with a hidden catch …

The person in the picture above is faced with a closed door, but because he refuses to let go of the door in front of him, he cannot see that a new door has opened behind him.

Alexander Graham Bell summed this idea up well when he said:

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us”

- Alexander Graham Bell

What this means in the real world is that when we dwell on things that did not work out, we can often miss out on new opportunities that are waiting for us.

For example, imagine that you worked hard on a business deal only to find that things didn't work out the way you anticipated. If you continue to focus on the situation instead of letting it go, you may miss new business opportunities that are waiting for you.

Similarly, when a relationship ends, we can get so caught up in analyzing what went wrong that we can miss the opportunity to develop new relationships.

Of course letting go is easier said than done. When a door closes on part of our life it is natural to feel upset and disappointed.

As you overcome these feelings it is important to find the courage to let go of the closed door in order to find the new door that is waiting for you.

Action Steps:

The next time you are faced with a closed door:

(1) Give yourself time to recover and find your feet.

(2) Make the decision to let go of the closed door.

(3) Begin to look for the new door that will lead to the future that is waiting for you.

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The Power Hour

In this article I'd like to share with you a simple but incredibly effective strategy that can instantly double your productivity and help you achieve your goals as quickly as possible.

Does the following scenario sound familiar?

It's 9.00am and you have a lot of work to do so you get started with the best of intentions. After you've been working for about 10 minutes, a little envelope appears on your computer screen. You open your email program just to check if it's anything important. It's an email from your best friend.

After reading the email and sending a quick reply, you get back to work. Five minutes later, you realize that you're thirsty so you get a drink and bump into a friend at the drink fountain.

As you get back to your desk the phone rings and you take the call. The caller asks you to email him a report, so you send off the report and notice that your friend has replied to your previous mail. You quickly type a reply to keep the conversation going.

Then your mobile phone beeps to indicate an incoming text message. It's a reminder from your husband about dinner at his parent's place. You text him a quick reply to assure him you haven't forgotten.

By this time, all that water you drank has kicked in and you need to take a quick bathroom break. When you get back to your desk you notice a small group of people gathered around the adjoining cubicle looking at photos of your colleague's recent trip to Maui.

When you finally get back to your computer, you realize that somehow an hour has passed and you've only spent 15 minutes of that time working on your main task.

As time continues to tick by, your deadline approaches and your stress levels start to rise…

While the details may be different, I'm sure many of you can relate to this story. These day's there is no end to the distractions that can and do take us away from completing our most important tasks. So what's the answer?

The answer is something I call the 'Power Hour'. Here's how it works:

Whenever you need to get an important task done, simply make the decision to have a

'Power Hour' and decide that you will not be distracted by anything during this hour.

Switch your mobile phone to silent

Divert landline calls to message bank

Turn off your email notification

Make sure that you don't need to eat, drink, or go to the bathroom

Let people know that you are not to be disturbed for the next hour

Then, get started and give your total undivided attention to the task at hand. Do not pause to check out what people around you are doing or saying.

Just do what you have to do.

To help you with this process you can either take note of your start time on your watch, or if you get into the practice of scheduling regular Power Hours, you can use a digital egg timer.

The best part about this strategy is that by working efficiently you complete the work that you need to do in the shortest possible time and minimize the need to work long hours. This in turn allows you to spend more time with the people you love doing the things you really want to do.

 

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How To Beat Self Sabotage

One of the biggest obstacles on the road to success is self sabotage.

Self sabotage occurs when you know what you want to achieve but for some reason, you act in a way that moves you away from your goal instead of towards it.

A common example is trying to follow a diet and then sabotaging your efforts by eating too much chocolate, cake, ice cream etc.

The secret to eliminating self sabotage is to understand this important fact:

“Self sabotage does not occur because you are weak. It occurs because your dream is weak”

Self sabotage occurs when a short term craving overrides your long term desire to achieve your dream.

Imagine that you are standing between two large magnets. On one side is your dream, and on the other is a temptation that leads to self sabotage.

In order to resist the attraction of the short term temptation and avoid self sabotage, you need to increase the pulling power of your dream.

Here are 10 ways to strengthen your dream in order to combat self sabotage:

(1) Place a picture of your dream on the ceiling above your bed so that you see it every morning and every evening before you go to sleep.

(2) Place a picture of your dream on the back of your bathroom door.

(3) Carry a picture of your dream in your wallet or purse.

(4) Place a picture of your dream wherever you are most likely to be tempted. For example, place a picture of your dress on the fridge door.

(5) Use the power of public pressure and tell people about your dream. The more you talk about it to others, the stronger your dream becomes.

(6) Hook up with a 'dream buddy' - Team up with someone who shares your dream and make a commitment to each other to make your dream a reality.

(7) Join a support group - Find an online support group and work with others to create an encouraging and supportive atmosphere.

(8) Keep a journal - Record your experiences in a journal or a blog. The more you write, the stronger your dream becomes.

(9) Associate your dream with a song that you find particularly inspirational. When you are tempted to give in to temptation, listen to your song to rekindle your passion for your dream.

(10) When you're face-to-face with temptation, ask yourself what you really want. For example, "What do I want more, this cake or to fit into my new dress?"

As you can see, all these techniques are ways to increase your level of focus on your desired outcome. The more you focus on your dream, the stronger it becomes. And the stronger the pull of your dream, the less likely you'll be to succumb to self sabotage.

Action Steps:

(1) Understand that self sabotage occurs not because you are weak, but rather, because your dream is weak.

(2) Take action and use the techniques listed above to strengthen the pulling power of your dream in order to avoid self sabotage.

 

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Seven Life Lessons

You don't need to travel hundreds of miles or spend thousands of dollars to find a great life coach. In fact, you can find some of the best life coaches in the world much closer to home than you may think…

Who are these expert life coaches?

The expert life coaches I'm talking about are - Children!

Children come into the world with a positive 'can-do' mindset that we as adults can learn a lot from. In this edition of Dare To Dream, I'd like to share with you seven important life lessons I've learnt from children.

(1) Live In The Moment

It never ceases to amaze me how quickly children can make the transition from being upset to being happy. Underlying these instantaneous mood swings is the ability to truly live in the moment.

Children don't spend hours reflecting on the past or worrying about the future. They live life as it happens. As adults we often carry emotional baggage from our previous experiences as well as fears for our future. It's little wonder that we struggle to enjoy each moment simply for what it is.

Life Lesson #1

Stop analyzing the past and worrying about the future and choose to live in the moment.

(2) Give Yourself Time To Learn

To put myself through University, I used to teach the clarinet and saxophone to students of all ages. One of the major differences between my young students and my adult students was that the children gave themselves time to learn.

When they made a mistake, they simply laughed and moved on. The adult students on the other hand, often got worried and frustrated by their mistakes and berated themselves for not being perfect.

Children understand that it takes time to become good at something and they know that making mistakes is part of the learning process.

Life Lesson #2

When you are learning a new skill or activity, give yourself time to learn. Try not to get worried or frustrated when you make mistakes, instead, try and see the humor in the situation and enjoy the journey.

(3) Believe Anything Is Possible

This is an area in which children easily out do most adults. Children truly believe that anything is possible and they seem to naturally understand that belief is the secret ingredient for achieving success in every area of your life.

Life Lesson #3

Believe in your dreams with a ‘Child Like’ faith

(4) Laugh Out Loud

One of the things children enjoy more than anything else is to laugh and giggle. Some of my happiest memories are of laughing to the point of tears with my nephews over some silly incident or comment.

For some reason, as we grow older we seem to repress our sense of fun in preference for something called 'maturity'. Personally, I would much rather laugh out loud!

Life Lesson #4

Seize every opportunity you get to laugh out loud.

(5) Don't Be Afraid To Love

Children are much more likely to say, "I love you" than most adults. They do not think about or analyze the long term consequences of making this statement. When they feel a sense of love for someone, they simply let them know.

Life Lesson #5

When you love someone, let them know.

(6) Forgive Quickly And Completely

Children rarely carry a grudge for very long. They may get angry or upset but when they forgive someone, they do it quickly and completely. Adults on the other hand are quite capable of carrying a grudge for many years and even when they do forgive someone, it is often a case of, "I'll forgive but I'll never forget!"

Life Lesson #6

If you’re carrying a grudge – let it go and move on. A grudge gets heavier the longer you carry it.

(7) Never Lose Your Sense Of Wonder

Children don't take the world around them for granted. They possess a wonderful sense of curiosity and fun.

A few weeks ago I was in a park with my nephew David. I was chasing him around an oak tree and each time I changed direction and caught him, he burst into a fit of giggles.

Eventually we collapsed on the ground and looked up at the sunlight sparkling through the leaves.

As I lay on the ground, I reached over and picked up an acorn and said, "David, did you know that this big tree grew from a little seed like this?"

My nephew thought about this for a moment and then his eyes widened and he asked, "How?"

I looked at the acorn in my hand and then up at the huge tree above us and the amazement that my nephew had shown suddenly hit me too!

Life Lesson #7

Take the time to stop and look at the world around you through the eyes of a child.

It really is an amazing place!

Action Steps:

This week, take a break from the pressures of being an adult and use the seven life lessons above to reconnect with your inner child.

 

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Where To Find Everything You Have Ever Wanted

Imagine for a moment that you are about to stand up in front of two thousand people and give a presentation….how would you feel?

We are all familiar with how it feels to step out of our 'comfort zones'. Whether it's giving a presentation, asking someone out on a date or starting a new business, the feeling in each case is very similar.

If you're like most people, you feel queasy in the stomach, your mouth goes dry, your knees feel weak and your heart starts beating rapidly. Generally most people do everything they can to avoid this feeling because it feels uncomfortable. But to avoid this feeling is a mistake…and here's why: “Everything you want in life is waiting for you outside of your comfort zone”

When we stay safe inside our comfort zones, we limit ourselves to experiencing the things that are already part of our life. The only way to change your circumstances is to venture out of your comfort zone into the Possibility Zone, because it is here that you will find everything you have ever wanted.

Whether it's better health, love, money, or a personal goal that is important to you, the life you want is waiting for you outside of your comfort zone.

The only way to expand your comfort zone is to bite the bullet and step out into the possibility zone. Initially this can be uncomfortable but with repeated effort, your comfort zone will slowly expand to include the things that you really want from life. So next time you experience that queasy feeling of stepping out of your comfort zone, don't shy away from it, instead, embrace the feeling for what it truly is - An indication that you are taking a step towards creating the life of your dreams.

In fact the more often you venture out of your comfort zone and experience that feeling, the faster you will make your dreams a reality.

Action Steps:

(1) Review your goals and identify an action that will take you out of your comfort zone.

(2) Commit to taking that action as soon as possible.

(3) As you take action, notice what it feels like to step out of your comfort zone.

(4) Practice embracing the feeling of stepping into your possibility zone as a positive indication that you are moving closer to making your dreams a reality.

 

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Overcoming Procrastination

When you face a difficult task, it can sometimes feel like you’re trying to move a mountain.

The longer you stare up at the mountain, the more overwhelming your task seems. In

this situation, it's very easy to start procrastinating by finding other things to do.

Procrastination is one of the major obstacles that you need to overcome in order to

make your dreams a reality. The secret to overcoming procrastination is to stop looking

up at the mountain and start looking down at your wheel barrow. Let me explain…

When you look at a complex task in its entirety, it is very easy to become paralyzed by

the sheer amount of work that you need to do. Your mind starts telling you that ‘it’s

impossible’ and you spiral downward into a sea of negativity.

The way to overcome this paralysis is to change your focus and stop thinking about the

overall task you need to complete. Instead, just concentrate on something you know

you can achieve.

Let’s look at an example to see how this works in the real world.

Peter is facing the ‘mountain’ of writing a PhD thesis. When he thinks about writing a

500 page document, it just seems too overwhelming and so day-after-day he

procrastinates and avoids getting started.

Each morning, Peter asks himself, “Can I write a 500 page document?” and his internal

answer is “NO WAY!” so he procrastinates and looks around for other things to do –

He takes his kids to school, goes to the gym, does the shopping. Anything to avoid the

mountain that is sitting in his study.

Finally, Peter realizes that the best way to overcome procrastination is to stop looking

up at the mountain and start looking down at his wheelbarrow.

Instead of asking himself, “Can I write a 500 page document?” he begins his day by

asking, “Can I work on my PhD without being distracted for 1 hour?” – his internal

answer to this question is “Yes – I can easily do 1 hour”

Peter blocks out all distractions and works on his PhD for 1 hour. At the end of the hour

he feels like he has made a small amount of progress. He asks himself again, “Can I

work on my PhD without being distracted for 1 hour?” – Since he has already done this,

he knows the answer is ‘Yes’ so he does it again.

By the end of the day, Peter has completed four hours of effective work on his PhD. He

is tempted to look up at the mountain but he knows it is much better if he just focuses

on moving his wheelbarrow one hour at a time.

After a month of following this routine, Peter takes a look at his mountain and sees that

his 1 hour blocks of action have made a dramatic impact. This gives him even more

confidence and momentum to keep moving forward.

Step-by-step, one hour at a time, Peter moves his mountain.

If you are currently trying to move a mountain in your life, here are the steps you need

to take in order to overcome procrastination and get the job done!

Action Steps

(1) Stop thinking about the overall task you need to complete.

(2) Instead, focus on a small component of the task that you know you can achieve.

(3) Ask yourself, “Can I work on this task without being distracted for 1 hour?”

(4) Forget about everything else other than working hard for 1 hour.

(5) At the end of the hour, ask yourself the same question again.

(6) Move your mountain one hour at a time.

(7) Enjoy the amazing sense of achievement that comes from completing a difficult task.

 

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A Psalm of Life

By Herry Wadsworth Longfellow

Tell me not in mournful numbers, 请别用哀伤的诗句对我讲;

Life is but an empty dream!

人生呵,无非是虚梦一场!

For the soul is dead that slumbers 因为沉睡的灵魂如死一般,

A Psalm of Life 人生礼颂

And things are not what they seem. 事物的表里并不如一。

Life is real! Life is earnest!

人生是实在的!人生是热烈的!

And the grave is not its goal;

人生的目标决不是坟墓;

Dust thou art , to dust returnest,

你是尘土,应归于尘土。

Was not spoken of the soul.

此话指的并不是我们的精神。

Not enjoyment , and not sorrow, 我们的归宿并不是快乐,

Is our destined and our way;

也不是悲伤,

But to act, 实干

That much to-morrow.

才是我们的道路,

Find us farther than to-day.

每天不断前进,蒸蒸蒸日上。

Art is long , and time is fleeting. 光阴易逝,而艺海无涯,

And our hearts , though stout and brave. 我们的心哪――虽然勇敢坚强,

Still , like muffled drums , are beating

却像被布蒙住的铜鼓,

Funeral marches to the grave.

常把殡葬的哀乐擂响。

In the world's broad field of battle,

在这人生的宿营地,

In the bivouac of Life,

在这辽阔的世界战场,

Be not like dumb,driven cattle!

别做无言的牲畜任人驱赶,

Be a hero in the strife!

做一名英雄汉立马横枪!

Trust no future, howe'er pleasant!

别相信未来,哪怕未来多么欢乐!

Let the dead Past bury its dead!

让死去的往昔将死亡一切埋葬!

Act,act in the living Present!

上帝在上,我们胸怀勇气,

Let us,then,be up and doing,

让我们起来干吧,

With a heart for any fate;

下定决心,不管遭遇怎样;

Still achieving,still pursuing

不断胜利,不断追求,

Learn to labour and to wait.

要学会苦干和耐心等待。

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"There" is no better than "Here"

Many people believe that they will be happy once they arrive at some specific goal they set for themselves. However, more often than not, once you arrive " there" you will still feel dissatisfied, and move your " there" vision to yet another point in the future. By always chasing after another "there," you are never really appreciating what you already have right "here." It is important for human beings to keep soberminded about the age-old drive to look beyond the place where you now stand. On one hand, your life is enhanced by your dreams and aspirations. On the other hand, these drives can pull you farther and farther from your enjoyment of your life right now. By learning the lessons of gratitude and abundance, you can bring yourself closer to fulfilling the challenge of living in the present.

Gratitude

To be grateful means you are thankful for and appreciative of what you have and where you are on your path right now. Gratitude fills your heart with the joyful feeling and allows you to fully appreciate everything that arises on your path. As you strive to keep your focus on the present moment, you can experience the full wonder of "here."

There are many ways to cultivate gratitude. Here are just a few suggestions you may wish to try:

1. Imagine what your life would be like if you lost all that you had. This will most surely remind you of how much you do appreciate it.

2. Make a list each day of all that you are grateful for, so that you can stay conscious daily of your blessings. Do this especially when you are feeling as though you have nothing to feel grateful for. Or spend a few minutes before you go to sleep giving thanks for all that you have.

3. Spend time offering assistance to those who are less fortunate than you, so that you may gain perspective.

However you choose to learn gratitude is irrelevant. What really matters is that you create a space in your consciousness for appreciation for all that you have right now, so that you may live more joyously in your present moment.

Abundance

One of the most common human fears is scarcity. Many people are afraid of not having enough of what they need or want, and so they are always striving to get to a point when they would finally have enough.

Alan and Linda always dreamed of living "the good life." Both from poor working-class families, they married young and set out to fulfill their mutual goal of becoming wealthy. They both worked very hard for years, amassing a small fortune, so they could move from their two-bedroom home to a palatial seven-bedroom home in the most upscale neighborhood. They focused their energies on accumulating all the things they believed signified abundance: membership in the local exclusive country club, luxury cars, designer clothing, and high-class society friends. No matter how much they accumulated, however, it never seemed to be enough. They were unable to erase the deep fear of scarcity both had acquired in childhood. They needed to learn the lesson of abundance. Then the stock market crashed in 1987, and Alan and Linda lost a considerable amount of money. A bizarre but costly lawsuit depleted another huge portion of their savings. One thing led to another, and they found themselves in a financial disaster. Assets needed to be sold, and eventually they lost the country club membership, the cars, and the house. It took several years and much hard work for Alan and Linda to land on their feet, and though they now live a life far from extravagant, they have taken stock of their lives and feel quite blessed. Only now, as they assess what they have left -- a solid, loving marriage, their health, a dependable income, and good friends -- do they realize that true abundance comes not from amassing, but rather from appreciating.

Scarcity consciousness arises as a result of the "hole-in-the-soul syndrome." This is when we attempt to fill the gaps in our inner lives with things from the outside world. But like puzzle pieces, you can't fit something in where it does not naturally belong. No amount of external objects, affection, love, or attention can ever fill an inner void. We already have enough, so we should revel in our own interior abundance.

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The Two Roads

It was New Year's Night. An aged man was standing at a window. He had already passed sixty of the stages leading to it, and he had brought from his journey nothing but errors and remorse.

The days of his youth appeared like dreams before

 him, and he recalled the serious moment when his father placed him at the entrance of the two roads-one leading to a peaceful, sunny place, covered with flowers, fruits and resounding with soft, sweet songs;the other leading to a deep, dark cave, which was endless.

He looked towards the sky and cried painfully, ″O youth, return!O my father, place me once more at the entrance to life, and I'll choose the better way!″But both his father and the days of his youth had passed away.

The clock in the high church tower struck and the sound made him remember his parents' early love for him. They had taught him and prayed to God for his good. But he chose the wrong way. His darkened eyes were full of tears, and with a despairing effort, he burst out a cry: ″Come back, my early days!Come back!″

And his youth did return, for all this was only a dream which he had on New Year's Night.

Those who still linger on the entrance of life, hesitating to choose the bright road, remember that when years are passed and your feet stumble on the dark mountains, you will cry bitterly, but in vain: ″O youth, return!Oh give me back my early days!″

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如何提高英语听力技巧?

英语学习中,应努力提高听力。这样可以借助听觉,大量、快速地复习学过的单词和词组, 并在此基础上扩大知识面,更多地掌握同一词 的不同用法,提高阅读速度与理解能力。下面,笔者根据自己近两年的实践,与英语自学者谈谈在提高听力方面的点滴体会。

第一,自身准确的发音。自身准确地道的英语发音不能让你在听力上面无往不利,但是不准确不地道的发音绝对不能有效的解决听力问题。而准确地道的发音往往又得之于在听力中纠正自己的发音。两者是互相进行的。

第二,阅读应与听力练习同时,同比重的进行。很多人为提高听力把所有时间都集中在听力材料的练习上。我肯定的说,这是个错误。我们不是生活在国外,你无论怎样营造,都不能有一个真正的外国的文化氛围在你身边,这一个已经可以说明只注重单一的听力练习是错误的。其次,听力练习中,你接触到多少信息呢?这个信息包括词汇、语法、习惯用法、文化等等在接触材料时能够遇到的所有东西。我敢说你听十盒磁带不及我读一本原著的信息量。如果别人的说话内容超出了你那听得滚瓜烂熟的磁带内容,你是否有信心听懂?这可是十分自然的事情,你自己日常的说话内容,是否可以用十盒磁带来装得下来。只要你发音正确,你在阅读时接触到的词,如果让你在听的时候遇到,很多都有可能听懂。倘若你的听力目标是想听什么就能听懂什么的话,阅读起到的作用更是举足轻重。同时,如果你连在阅读中都无法读懂的句子,你在听力中能够听懂吗?我想来个总结:词汇量和语法是阅读的关键,阅读量的多少以及阅读能力的好坏决定听说能力的高低,而我们学习语言,又必须从听说开始。

第三,VOA Special English是很好的听力材料,但是你已经听够了,给点信心自己,听一些外国人正常语速的东西。你不可能要求外国人用Special English的语速说话给你听。事实上Special English和正常的说话之间的差别并不是大家想的那么小,而语速对听力的影响更不是想象中那么微弱,往往是起了决定性的影响的。因为正常语速跟慢速之间不同的地方实在太多,譬如连读、省略、轻读、模糊等等,这些都是影响听懂与否的关键要素。Special English里全是完整的句子,可是实际上正常的说话表达才不需要那么正儿八经呢?你是否有信心听懂?况且Special English里更遇不到丰富的词汇,复杂的结构。听了几个月或半年的特别英语,别想自己还是特别的了,听听正常的东西吧。但是,我还认为,VOA Special English应该不间断的听,只是不能把重点放在上面了。因为VOA Special English不但是入门英语中不可多得的听力材料,也是纠正发音的绝佳材料。无论你英语学习到达了什么程度,我到希望你能够不断听Special English

第四,专心听懂一盒磁带比你囫囵吞枣的听了十盒磁带的效果要好得多。我们记忆单词平时是用眼看心记,虽然你是认识了这个单词,但很可能你还是听不懂这个单词,听力练习时是用耳朵对单词的再熟悉。精听了一盒磁带你用耳朵记忆了这盒磁带里所有的单词和句子、发音、语调等等。泛听十盒磁带,你记不了多少东西的。

第五,精听的同时,泛听十分重要。好像跟上面自相矛盾的样子。请听我解释。泛听有精听得不到的东西,我说的却不是很多人认为在泛听中得到的信息量。其实泛听听懂的实在不多,哪来什么信息量?泛听中我想强调的是:语速、语调。让你习惯正常的语速。我们在精听时都是不断反复听同一句话的,可是实际上别人只会说一次给你听。请在泛听中让自己习惯别人用正常语速,只说一次的情况。你不会要求预报天气的说一句后又重复一次吧。

第六,如何精听?我不赞成无论听什么都在听懂了后再根据录音默写一遍。至少不赞成听每一篇听力材料都听写。原因之一是听力有时候更多注重 ""。你没有听过的东西即使是汉语你也大概不会懂吧。我的建议是:挑选认为典型的材料再听写。那么精听要精到什么程度呢?听一句复述一句,或者就跟着录音一起读。(当然是不能看着文本啦。)这样效果不比听写查,所费时间要省得多。

第七,如何泛听?看电影是泛听。听实时广播是泛听,看电视是泛听,尽可能接触更多正常的原始音频。你可以反反复复听同一盒磁带,直到兴味索然。只要不停顿就是泛听。泛听过程中,你也可以将录音就转为精听。并没有严格的界限。只是要记得,泛听的目的是让自己习惯正常的语速,或者说,习惯外国人的正常的交流是怎样的。关注的是语速、连读、略音等等只有连续说话才会有的东西。

第八,别理会什么听力技巧。那些技巧只能在考试时帮你的忙。以前读高中的时候,老师教了许多的阅读技巧,说看文章可以找主题句,主题句可以找关键词,单词不懂可以猜。这些阅读技巧在考试时大概有用吧,至少我没有用过。因为我的词汇量大,语感好,别人还没有找到主题句我已经读完整篇文章了。你相信整篇文章还是相信仅仅一句主题句?在阅读原著时,这些技巧更加一点作用也没有。又如听力技巧,听关键词,遇到不懂的单词先别理会,继续听可能就明白了它的意思了。我们中国人说话有没有听关键词的?如果你在口译中只听关键词,你胆敢就此口译出来?只听关键词你能够弄懂一部电影中多少东西?更重要的是,在正常的语速当中,你能够找到多少个关键词?你还有时间回头想刚才没有听出来的那个单词?恐怕你早就忘了。

第九,关注一下常用的单词。外国人说话不是每一句都用你不懂的单词说的。你听不懂的往往就是最常用的,而且是你已经掌握了的单词。只是它们在常速、连读、略音下使你以为是生词而已。相信大家已经深有体会了。那些是常用的单词?在听力中譬如 havegoyouwherewhenhimthem等等就是(当然还有其他啦)。在这里,VOA Special English有好与不好的地方。它能让你清楚这些常用单词的发音,它不能让你知道正常的交际中这些单词怎样发音。

英语学习是终身的事情,听力练习也是一样。别想着我强化练习半年,终于听懂手头上几十盒磁带了,以后再也不会遇到问题了。几十盒磁带以外的东西你是否能够听懂?信息瞬息万变,

今天的新闻你听懂,明天的你也十拿九稳听懂?我自己不敢说。

别急,听不懂是很自然的事情。不是你的错,不是别人比你聪明,只是别人练习得比你多而已。慢慢练习,把自己融入英语的世界里,随着时间的流逝,你会看到成绩的。

From: http://www.hjenglish.com/new/p98991/

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